Comment on Vulnerability vs. Defensiveness: Why Talking to People Feels Harder Than It Is by Laura Gallaher


I love real examples! I also used to be more like Sherry, although perhaps even more toxic, because I would keep all my critical thoughts in my head. I’d look at somebody sharing vulnerably, and even if – or especially if – it resonated with me, I would find myself denying it or feeling really uncomfortable in their presence. Slowing down is great – and I also find such a freedom in just being open about myself – even the things that I’m afraid to share. It creates freedom from judgment and freedom from my own shame and negative self talk. Thanks for commenting, Chelsea!