Vulnerability vs. Defensiveness: Why Talking to People Feels Harder Than It Is
By: Dr. Laura Gallaher
- Being vulnerable is scary, but in the rare case that others respond negatively – that’s just their shit
- You need vulnerability on your team
- An unwillingness to be vulnerable is a red flag
- It takes true courage and self-esteem to be vulnerable
read time: 6 minutes
Our Fear of Being Vulnerable Comes from Fear of Judgement
Her: “Is that story real? I mean, I’m not calling you a liar or anything but…”
Me: “Um…” I paused. “I think maybe you are,” I say cautiously, but honestly.
Me: “It’s a true story, just like I said at the beginning.”
Her: “But…there’s no happy ending? That’s really embarrassing, it’s hard to believe you would share that.”
Somewhat stunned, I paused for a moment, and then felt my eyebrows raise in...